Episode 214: Everything You Want Is on the Other Side of Fear

This past weekend, I spoke in front of 10,000 people at Grant Cardone's 10X Growth Conference. And while it was one of the most amazing speaking experiences of my life, it came with a ton of doubt, lack of clarity and more nerves than I'd ever experienced.

During the weeks leading up to this event and planning my talk, I struggled to find clarity. I panicked. With several big things happening this past month, I was stuck in my own head and nothing else could come through.

“Being busy can be the biggest curse when you're trying to be creative.”

At this point, doubt crept in and I began to wonder how the hell I even received this opportunity. I knew I was meant to be there and share a message, but I questioned if they had the right Lori Harder. So, I did what I knew I needed to do.

I reached out to my Earth angels and asked for their support and confirmation that yes, I could do this, and yes, I was meant to do this. It helped so much. My talk fell into place and it was off to Las Vegas for the conference.

However, the day before the event I felt waves of sheer terror. Dizzy at times and feeling like I was going to pass out, I told my husband, “I'm going down.” He quickly helped me reframe with questions such as, “What are you excited about? What are you grateful for?” It helped a little, but I still felt shaken. That is until I stepped onto the stage and saw all of the people. I was instantly grounded and realized that,

“No vision is given to us if it's not for us. We must have faith in that.”

When I pictured all of my tribe who supported me, my faith kicked in and I felt calm. I felt a part of me I'd never felt. It was one of the most incredible talks.

So, the moral of the story? Have faith. Take risks – even when it scares the crap out of you.

“Stop thinking that a mediocre life is going to make you happy.”

Everything you want is on the other side of fear. It doesn't always feel good, but it's not supposed to. Lean into that uncertainty and know that for all the lows we experience, we often experience an abundance of highs.

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