Today we’re talking about who you have to become in order to start creating, manifesting and maintaining relationships in your life. Not long ago, I had a desire to hang out with higher-level friends. Now, don’t get me wrong, the friends I had at the time were great friends, but I was looking for something a little deeper.
I wanted to have a true tribe of people who had a more expanded mindset, financial thermostat, bigger goals and no limits on their beliefs or possibilities. And it wasn’t just about fitting in because we already know how awesome we are.
“What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as who you become by achieving your goals.” – Zig Ziglar
It’s about adding value and contributing to the relationship on equal levels. If you’re someone who has already up-leveled, you’re no stranger to people contacting you and wanting to “pick your brain” or have coffee and talk business. While it may be flattering, you know it’s not something you want to commit to until you see what they can bring to the table to. It’s not personal when you politely decline (or someone declines your invitation), It’s about finding those people who expand your mindset, don’t question what’s possible and cheer you on.
“Be someone who they want to connect with.”
One important distinction… don’t change who you are at your core to fit in with someone who isn’t a great match. Just be the most authentic version of yourself! At first, I honestly thought I had to be an expert on the science of self-development principles, but I found that it wasn’t true. Depending on the group or situation, I actually added value in a variety of ways, such as being goofy, holding space, listening or giving advice. So just do YOU! Be authentic, find out who you are and be a person who adds value.
I know it’s not always easy to put yourself out there to new groups of people. OK, it can be downright scary sometimes. But do it anyway, because the things that bring you the most joy are often hidden underneath fear and resistance.
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