Your friends suck. How do I know that? Because I have friends that suck. You may not even realize it, but we all have them. Friends that suck up too much of your time, your energy, your money, or even the life out of you.
The unfortunate part is they may not even know that they are doing this, nor may you. In most cases, it’s not intentional or sneaky, it just happens. It may be that friend who always comes to you with endless relationship issues. Or perhaps it’s the friend who always seems short on cash and needs another loan, yet always has the hottest new clothes. Or maybe it’s your friend who although you love them, you find yourself hitting “decline” on their phone call because you just can’t bear to hear the complaining and negativity again.
Ever find yourself struggling at work a few days a week? It couldn’t be that friend who guilts you into late night happy hours every Tuesday and Thursday instead of the gym could it? Have trouble keeping those last few pounds off? Perhaps it’s your friend who insists you deserve to eat those fatty, rich foods at lunch or dinner because they want them too, and “of course you don’t want to make them feel badly.” You see, these “friends” slowly suck the life out of your goals without even intending it. Sometimes they’re just a permanent bad influence.
Of course not all “sucky” friends are so innocent either. Some of them know they’re doing it, but you’ve always been there for them, so why should they stop? Like your friend that suddenly turns cold once you’ve lost those twenty pounds, and you refuse to skip the gym now instead of going out with them. Or how about the insecure friend who thrives off of attention, and knows what throwing a tantrum in public every time will ensure they get their way. The scary part is we usually identify these more obvious life suckers, but continue to hang out with them just the same.
It is often said that your income is the average of your 5 closest friends’. Well, I’m going to go as far as to say that holds true not only for wealth, but for your health, relationships, and happiness. So, am I saying ditch your friends and start over? Absolutely not. But, take a real look at your friends and watch out for these signs. Most importantly, don’t be afraid to mention something to them when you see them, and realize that a true friend will hold your wants and goals in high regard, not just theirs. And after all this, if they’re still suck, be brave enough to know that you’ll be better off without them!