When you’re at an event and you notice that someone is clearly not having a good time, what’s your reaction? If you’re anything like I used to be, you would take yourself out of the fun and try and shift that person’s energy, solve their problems, and ultimately, bring your own mood down. This might be a major wakeup call for some of you who don’t even realize that you’re doing this and fall into patterns of feeling responsible for other people’s emotions. When you start to take full ownership over your own feelings and reactions, that is one of the most powerful places that you can be in. This is a lifetime practice, but I’m sharing some tips on how I’ve been able to implement this in my life and the major changes that I’ve seen as a result of shifting out of my people-pleasing tendencies. 

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Episode Timeline & Discussion Questions

( 0:40 ) Welcome back to Earn Your Happy.

( 1:56 ) Lori says, “Today, I want to chat with you about your feelings being your own responsibility, and everyone else’s feelings being their own responsibility, and taking full ownership over whether or not you have a good time.”

( 4:19 ) Lori says, “If you can master just really owning the responsibility for your own self, that you’re going to live a much better life.”

( 5:58 ) Lori talks about this episode’s sponsor, Storyworth. 

( 8:45 ) Lori highlights that it’s important to surround yourself with people who lift your energy up. 

( 12:11 ) Lori says, “If they do not care about your emotions, it’s time to stop caring about theirs.”

( 13:03 ) Lori reflects on why she was constantly in situations where she was trying to change people’s attitudes and experiences. 

( 15:03 ) Lori says, “It is time to start looking out for your best interests, because when you focus on you, and when you feel good, that is when you can make the most change.”