876. Dr. Ethan Kross On How To Control Your Inner Voice

Learning how to regulate my inner voice and shift into positive self-talk has been one of the greatest tools that I’ve learned in my entrepreneurial journey. I’m joined by Dr. Ethan Kross, who is a leading expert on training the voice inside your head. He’s an experimental psychologist, neuroscientist, and writer who specializes in emotion regulation, and he recently published a book all about how to transform the chatter in your head so that it works for you instead of against you. We discuss how to tune in and listen to your subconscious, rewire those thought patterns, and use your inner voice as an ally. Ethan shares his top tips for managing performance anxiety and what to do if you’re stuck in an anxious cycle. 


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About Dr. Ethan Kross:

Ethan Kross, PhD, is one of the world's leading experts on controlling the conscious mind. An award-winning professor at the University of Michigan and the Ross School of Business, he is the director of the Emotion & Self Control Laboratory. He has participated in policy discussion at the White House and has been interviewed on CBS Evening News, Good Morning America, Anderson Cooper Full Circle, and NPR's Morning Edition. His pioneering research has been featured in The New York Times, The New Yorker, The Wall Street Journal, USA Today, The New England Journal of Medicine, and Science. He completed his BA at the University of Pennsylvania and his PhD at Columbia University.


Discussion Questions & Episode Highlights

( 0:46 ) Welcome back to Earn Your Happy. Today, Lori is joined by Dr. Ethan Kross. 

( 2:59 ) Ethan joins the conversation. 

( 3:49 ) Lori asks Ethan, “First of all, what made you just really hone in on this topic? Why are you so passionate about it?”

( 7:48 ) Lori says, “You talk about four things that chatter is good for, let's talk about those.”

( 11:04 ) Lori asks Ethan, “So whose is it? Where does it come from? Where do we learn it? Why do some people's voices feel like they cannot break the cycle?” 

( 12:08 ) Ethan asks Lori, “Did you have a class growing up that taught you about what the inner voice is and how it works?”

( 14:57 ) Lori asks Ethan, “So can you help us with performance anxiety?”

( 19:26 ) Ethan breaks down his ‘2AM chatter’ strategy. 

( 22:05 ) Lori talks about today’s sponsor, Splendid Spoon. 

( 25:40 ) Lori asks Ethan, “How do we start kind of coaching ourselves around the worry and the anxiety?”

( 32:18 ) Lori asks Ethan, “Do you know anything about the difference between how male and female brains work?”

( 33:52 ) Lori says, “Talk to me about the different tones of voices.”

( 37:52 ) Lori asks Ethan, “How do you create opportunities and plan out for the future to attract more attractive things into your life with your inner voice?” 

( 39:24 ) Lori asks Ethan, “Do you journal or meditate or visualize? How do you kind of get your inner voice in check into a good place for the day?” 

( 43:47 ) Lori asks Ethan, “People need this book. Who exactly is this for, besides everyone?”

( 44:35 ) Chatter is available anywhere books are sold and listeners can learn more at ethankross.com