This past week, I’ve been feeling the importance of my tribe on a whole new level. If you listened to my podcast with Mastin Kipp last week, you’ll understand what I mean when I say, “With every new level there’s a new devil.” This could not be more true!
With my recent 14-Day Challenge wrapping up at the beginning of this week, I had a few instances come up that reminded me of the fact that the more challenges I do and the more people who join my tribe, the more diverse group of people I’m going to attract. And guess what? Even those these people are a part of my larger tribe, we all have different backgrounds and I’m not going to please everyone. It’s also a given that we’re not always going to understand one another.
It seems so simple when you write it out like that, but I didn’t get there as easily. As a verbal processor, I depended on the support of my own personal tribe to get me there. This is a group of people who I’ve collected over time and who I know hold space for me when I need it. And let’s just say I sent out the Bat Signal for them this week!
“Your tribe gives you feedback, but they’re also there just to hear you.”
Feedback is always welcome, however sometimes it doesn’t help. This is why all relationships must be two-sided. There must be agreements in place and space held for the other party to process as well.
“We have to create boundaries and we have to set clear ideas of what the relationship is.”
This is, of course, different for every relationship and that is why you must communicate or one person may turn resentful. For me personally, I have a variety of tribe members. There are those that allow me to process, hold me accountable, support me, strategize, execute and celebrate. These lines do blend every now and then, but at the end of the day, I know who I can go to when I need it.
So out of the above categories, which would help you the most right now? And which is the easiest to implement? If you’re having trouble choosing one, you must work on focusing your attention to that.
“If you haven’t found what you want yet, it’s simply because you haven’t applied focus consistently.”
I know this is hard to hear, but as a person who has (and still can) struggle with this, I know it will change your life and help you tackle each new challenge that comes your way.
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