Author: Lori Harder

Candy Valentino is a powerhouse businesswoman. She’s helped run 62 charity events for other organizations, and now she’s getting ready to put on her own event. We talk about what it feels like to switch from helping others to asking for help, why it’s so empowering to reach out, and getting into the rooms with powerful entrepreneurs.

One thing that’s holding you back is an attachment to permanency. Believing that you’re supposed to find a great job and stay with that company forever, or you meet a partner and stay together forever, or you plant roots and stay in the same city forever. When you’re not attached to permanency, you’re allowed to dabble, to experiment, to try new things and see if they are right for you. And it’s only through that experimentation that you find what works best.

When you’re worried that you’re holding yourself back from making decisions because you feel attached to the permanency of your current situation, even if it’s making you unhappy, it’s time to start asking yourself some questions. First, “What’s the worst that could happen if I make a new decision?” Oftentimes, that worst case scenario is the exact same situation you’re in now, so don’t be afraid of making a new decision when the outcome might be the same as no decision at all – it could be so much better.

Many times we’re afraid of losing the good things about where we’re at now if we make a different decision. Maybe you’re afraid of losing your friends or your favorite restaurant. But what if you got really intentional, took inventory of what you loved, and made a focused effort to do those things (or similar) in a different situation? It’s possible to preserve the good while making even more room for new greatness.

So stop focusing so much on permanency. Life isn’t meant to be that way. If something isn’t serving you in the way that it could, try something new. Be intentional, focus on maintaining what you already have, and keep changing things to get even better.

I have been obsessed with Mel Robbins for longer than I can remember, so it’s a dream come true to be able to sit down with her and talk to her about The High 5 Habit. We’re all quick to give our friends high fives, cheer them on, be their biggest supporters… but what about the person in the mirror? When do we ever give ourselves a high five? And what would happen if we made a habit of it? That’s what Mel’s going to share, and let me tell you, it will absolutely change the game for you.

My friend Mel Robbins, one of the most requested motivational speakers in the world, is hosting a five-day online challenge on GrowthDay called The High 5 Challenge. She’s offering it to my community for free here:

https://app.growthday.com/challenge/high5?via=heylori

This free Challenge is an incredible opportunity to break through self-doubt, stay encouraged through these uncertain times, and take back control of your life.

The High 5 Challenge runs from October 4th to October 8th. You can sign up now for free, and you’ll even get Mel teaching LIVE every day until the start of the Challenge!

Question Highlights:

• Where did you learn the ability to offer up such powerful perspective changes with so much love?
• What did it feel like keeping everything inside and how did it manifest for you?
• What is The High 5 Habit?
• Does it ever feel like you won’t be able to achieve what you want if you show yourself love?
• What has this habit unlocked for you?

Guest Bio:

Mel Robbins is one of the leading voices in personal development and transformation and an international bestselling author. Her work includes the global phenomenon The 5 Second Rule, the upcoming The High 5 Habit, four #1 bestselling audiobooks, and the #1 podcast on Audible, as well as signature online courses that have changed the lives of more than half a million students worldwide. 

Her groundbreaking work on behavioral change has been translated into 36 languages and is used by healthcare professionals, veterans’ organizations, and the world’s leading brands to inspire people to be more confident, effective, and fulfilled.

As one of the most widely booked and followed public speakers in the world, Mel coaches more than 60 million people online every month, and videos featuring her work have more than a billion views online, including her TEDx talk, which is one of the most popular of all time.

There’s nothing Mel loves more than making a real difference in people’s lives by teaching them to believe in themselves and inspiring them to take the actions that will change their lives. Mel lives in New England with her husband of 25 years and their three kids, but she is and will always be a Midwesterner at heart.