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Episode 75: QUICKIE! Can We CHANGE Other People?

Have you ever wanted to change someone? Has it ever actually worked out for you?

Asking people to change or conform to our ideals may work for a short period, but in the long run it’s pretty impossible and to be honest, pretty unfair. Do you want to know whats NOT impossible? Changing our PERSPECTIVE on how we are viewing these individuals.

Headed towards the mountain in the distance, with or without someone’s support is what should be your main focus. Of course, it seems more enjoyable to feel the extra love and support from who we are closest to, but that’s not always a guarantee.

Instead of pushing and forcing a change upon someone, seek what you are “lacking” in yourself FIRST and watch how it can positively effect them, without even saying anything!

“Monkey see, monkey do.”

Some of the most beautiful things, comes from our biggest critics and our biggest lessons.

In This Episode You Will Learn About:

  • Feeling Support
  • Changing perspectives
  • Seeking within
  • Changing yourself FIRST
  • Growth
  • Inner peace

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Episode 74: Going from Rock Bottom to ROCK STAR BUSINESS and LIFE with Ryan Blair

Ryan Blair is a New York Times bestselling author, self-made multimillionaire and serial entrepreneur who established his first company when he was twenty-one years old and has since created and actively invested in multiple start-ups. Now at age of 38, he has founded and sold numerous businesses for hundreds of millions of dollars, runs global healthy lifestyle company, ViSalus, and is a venture capitalist.

ryan-blair-smallIn March 2013, Blair released his paperback version of his #1 New York Times Best Seller, Nothing To Lose, Everything To Gain: How I Went From Gang Member To Multimillionaire Entrepreneur. Uncensored and raw in his account of growing up in the face of adversity, Blair effectively imparts lessons learned from obstacles he faced and provides a road map for entrepreneurial success. Blair is no ordinary businessman: he’s a master of personal reinvention. His captivating story was also a USA Today, Wall Street Journal and Inc. Magazine, bestseller amongst others. Through a candid and unfiltered voice, Nothing to Lose speaks to everyone, from struggling youth to thriving businessmen alike, illustrating how to turn failures into successes.

In April 2014, Blair debuted Nothing To Lose: The Documentary, which follows his inspirational story as he overcomes challenges and adversity as well as his personal hurdles while building ViSalus into a household brand. The documentary has won the “Best Producer” award at the Beverly Hills Film Festival and “Best Documentary” at the Los Angeles Art-House Film Festival.

On October 4, 2016, Blair revealed his second book, Rock Bottom to Rock Star: Lessons from the Business School of Hard Knocks, which explores how he rose to the top and shares his personal formula for going from rock bottom to “rock star” to be the absolute best at what you do.

His biggest endeavor yet has been the overhaul of ViSalus, the company behind the Body by Vi™ 90-Day Challenge, a weight and fitness transformation platform. In 2008, as CEO, Blair went all-in, personally investing his last million dollars on a new business model that would later revolutionize the 118 billion dollar direct selling industry. In just 21 months, ViSalus went from 600,000 to 30 million dollars in monthly sales, and in 2011, they increased sales seven-fold from 34 million to 231 million dollars. In September 2014, Blair, with his co-founders, announced ViSalus and former parent company, Blyth, had reached an agreement to sell back 90-percent of shares to the founders of the company.

Blair appears regularly on CNBC, MSNBC, Bloomberg TV, CNN, and Fox. He has also been featured in major publications including Inc Magazine, Fortune Magazine, BusinessWeek, Wall Street Journal, and Financial Times. Blair took a turn in movie production serving as Executive Producer of Man in the Glass: The Dale Brown Story, an award-winning documentary about the legendary LSU Basketball Coach.

Growing up in a “Brady Bunch” family environment, Ryan shares with us how his life wasn’t always as grandiose as it is now. Being a child in a veteran a family, at the age of 13 he witnessed his Fathers downward spiral, leaving his Mother alone to raise the children. Being paid just above minimum wage at the deli job she accepted to pay for her family, Ryan remembers a life of unfortunate poverty.

rock-bottom-rock-star-coverBeing forced to move “to the other side of the tracks” due to their financial situation, Ryan gets real about life on the other side. After his sisters best friend lost her life in a drive by shooting, Ryan decided to retaliate, indulging in the gang scene or “illegal entrepreneurship activities” as he called it.

Growing up first-hand in the “rock bottom” kind of lifestyle, his real life experiences made it easier for him to write about it all, and gave him that extra motivation and push to not end up like his other brothers and sisters. Ryan wanted a plentiful and peaceful life for himself and his own future family.

Thankful for his spiritual upbringing because of his Grandmother, Ryan goes on to share with us that at times, it was truly his spirituality that he leaned on heavily, to get him through life, along with love the he had for his Grandmother and Mom.

“They had always told me, ‘You can be anything you want to be.’”

And Ryan did just that! In fact he went far beyond his wildest imagination.

If you’re in need of a shot of inspiration, you’ve come to the right place! Ryan’s interview is the answer you’ve been looking for.

In This Episode You Will Learn About:

  • Going from rags to riches
  • Leaps of faith
  • Overcoming adversity
  • Perseverance
  • Hard work
  • Choosing your path
  • Spirituality

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Couldn’t get enough of this interview? In need of some more rock star tips and advice? Visit rockbottomtorockstar.com.

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Listen to Those “Nudges” From the Universe

And Figure Out If They Are a HELL YES or a No

Hello Gorgeous!

I know you’ve felt it and I know you’ve ignored it! I have too. I’m talking about that poke from the Nudgy Bear, better known as a soul message straight from SOURCE that poses a question mark above your head.

For me, I am a creative so I get lots of nudges that sound interesting! Oooooh should I join a pottery club, play the guitar, start that new Meetup group or create that new fitness app? The list goes on and on but I know myself very well. They have to be a HELL yes right now and one year down the road for me to take action or I tend to quit on them.

So when I got the nudge to start a podcast I had to think about it for a while. At first it wasn’t a super powerful nudge, more like a toddler gently tapping at you when they know they shouldn’t. In fact I TRIED to ignore it and I only started thinking about it because my husband was talking about doing one. Now, I will tell you that I started out as a SERIOUS podcast listener to begin with and give so much credit to them for my growth and willingness to learn and reach out to new people, but I didn’t know I would want to actually do one. They take a lot of work and honestly, I was scared sh*tless to reach out to these epic leaders and have to talk with them, one on one, for an hour!  Oh crap, it scares me in the WORST way…which only meant I had to explore it more because following that fear is where all the gold has been HIDDEN for me.

fullsizerender-jpgIt started with a simple question. “Would I like having to connect and show up for this weekly?” The answer was yes. “Would I like having an excuse to connect with brilliant people I normally may not get the opportunity to?” The answer was HELL YES! “Would I like to share life changing information that could potentially alter the lives of others and leave a ripple in the planet while simultaneously getting the same gifts of growth? Must I tell you what the answer was? I literally said a prayer to God and said that no matter how tough or scary it got, I’ll show up for this nudge, and I have for eight months now and it’s been one of the best things I have ever done.
Feel the nudge, ask the questions and stay in those questions long enough until the answer comes. And for the love of all that is holy, be consistent. The blessings are all waiting for you beyond your wildest dreams.

Today, I want to thank you for reaching ONE MILLION DOWNLOADS in just under eight months. I would have never in a million years dreamed it would have happened like this from that very first nudge, yet it is what I set my intentions and focus on! I could not have done it without all of you sharing the love and joining me on this soul journey. Clearly the nudge was NOT a message from my mind but from the same place that is speaking to you trying to get you to do that thing. You may not even be sure what it is yet, but keep listening, asking and following until you KNOW it’s time to show up. It’s not easy my love, but neither is the soul squashing pain that comes from ignoring it. Honestly, fear can be worked with but regret is a beast. You are made for this. We all are and that is the truth. You just have to say yes.

I would love your feedback on the podcast, guests suggestions and of course you sharing, rating and reviewing is how I get to have the guests I’ve had on. I ask that if you love it you continue to share it. It takes a village and we are it!

Deepest heart soaked gratitude,

Lori Harder

P.S. If you haven’t heard my Earn Your Happy Podcast, I would love for you to listen to a few episodes! Click HERE to listen!

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