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Episode 150: Using the RIGHT Thoughts to FUEL Your Emotions

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Penny for your thoughts? What have you been thinking in the last week or so? List the top three feelings you’ve felt, keeping in mind it could be a combination and vary by the hour! 😉 That’s how I’ve felt lately anyway.

“How you feel is how you view the world around you.”

Let’s say you’re happy. When you have a hectic day, you don’t get angry, you choose gratitude and feel blessed to be so busy. If you’re anxious or feeling angry, you can likely guess that ANYTHING will set you off (why are they chew SO LOUDLY?) and things don’t look as rosy.

Emotions don’t just appear; they need our thoughts to fuel them. So if you’re pouring gasoline on a fire, you’re going to get bigger flames or an explosion. Same with your thoughts. If your thoughts are literally raging, your emotion (and actions for that matter) will follow suit.

So how can control this whiplash of emotions on a day-to-day basis? First off, take a minute and reflect: What emotions am I feeling? Then, what are the thoughts that are fueling that emotion? Once you’ve figured that out, INSERT NEW THOUGHT(S).

Recently, I’ve had to use this reframing practice along with a little help from a mastermind friend who steered me in the right direction. I wanted to hold onto that feeling of overwhelm – book, travel, programs etc. – and darn it, I wanted to be validated for it. My lovely friend, Lindsay, wasn’t going to give me an inch though. Instead, she encouraged me to “find presence in the busier schedule.”

“Don’t rob other experiences because of one emotion.”

So since then, I’ve been super mindful of these overwhelming thoughts. And I’ve used a special piece of jewelry to keep me aware and remind me to SLOW DOWN and get in the present when those feelings come creeping back. And I encourage you to do the same.

“Make your world instead of destroying it with your thoughts.”

Is it hard? Heck yes! It does NOT always feel awesome, but we must choose to get out of victim mode. Think the most peaceful, loving thoughts, forgive for the other thoughts and move on.

In This Episode You Will Hear About:

  • About the link between our thoughts and emotions
  • How choosing new thoughts can help you
  • About the importance of keeping your thoughts in the present
  • Why being aware of your thoughts is so important

Resources:

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Episode 141: The ONE Variable That’s Keeping You From an EXCITING Life!

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Do you feel like you’re living every day like it’s Groundhog’s Day? You know, same thoughts, same people, same problems… Sounds like it’s time to switch things up and add some excitement back into your life. But to do that we need to bust through fears and try new things. Of course, we can’t do that without first changing our thoughts.

To set the tone for the day, I highly recommend waking up and instantly repeating a positive mantra – either out loud or in your head. I know, I know… sounds a little cheesy, but I assure you, it works.

Every morning my husband and I say the following:

“I am happier, healthier, wealthier and more fit than I was yesterday.”

But that’s only the beginning of the day! Do small things throughout the day that keep the positivity and excitement going. Bear in mind that it doesn’t have to be anything HUGE.

“Life and enjoyment of life is made up of the very simple pleasures.”

Here are a few different things you could do:

  • Change your thoughts. Feel a negative thought creeping in? Stop it in its tracks with a more positive one. Be sure to do this throughout the day – not just in the morning.
  • Try different things. Go to a new coffee shop, try a different workout etc.
  • Ask different questions. Ask people BETTER questions: what’s good, new or exciting? What was your favorite part of today?
  • Read a book. Know a friend with a nose for good books? Ask them for their list.
  • Try different foods. Yes, please!
  • Go to a movie.

This list could go on and on…

Also, be sure you’re expanding your network – both virtually and in person. Ask a new friend out for coffee or to meet at a new workout class. And since social media has a tendency to highlight more negative things, be sure use that “block” button freely and start following more uplifting people/pages. Personally, I know that I don’t want any seeds of negativity growing in my mind, because that’s exactly what my mind will hold on to. It is SO important for YOU to weed out any potentially negative vibes.

“You are the variable. You are the only one who can change your outcome.”

Doing the same thing will only ever get you (you guessed it) the SAME thing. And who wants that? Certainly not me and likely not you.

“If you want a different day, you’ve got to start with different thoughts in the morning.”

Now, go let those thoughts lead you to THE BEST day!

In This Episode You Will Hear About:

  • The importance of experiencing new things
  • Positivity
  • Changing your thoughts
  • Mantras

Resources

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Episode 139: Causing An Effect!

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Quick…what are you thinking RIGHT now?

Are they positive thoughts filled with love and gratitude? Or are they low-vibe, energy-sucking thoughts that make you want to eat a can of worms?

If you’re the latter… don’t eat the worms! Kidding, but seriously, I do want to discuss the power of thoughts and how those thoughts affect your current situation.

I don’t know about you, but I’m fascinated with research – especially when it’s connected to the power of thoughts and changing outcomes. Currently, I’m reading the book, Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself by Dr. Joe Dispenza, and he discusses how by shifting our thoughts from being a victim of our circumstances we can instead cause an effect that creates a different outcome.

Nerd alert – I get so excited reading about studies like this. Dispenza shares research that directly links changes in DNA to positive thoughts. Did you read that? Changes in a person’s DNA!! Isn’t that amazing?! He advises though, that it’s not just about positive thoughts. Within the testing groups of one of the mentioned studies, the changes were only seen when there were positive thoughts AND feelings that went with them.

“It’s not just the thoughts, but rather the intentions behind them.”

We have the power to change our outcomes – just thinking and feeling different things. Now don’t get me wrong, I’m realistic. We’re not all going to wake up singing happy songs and dancing, but that’s exactly why we practice rituals that help get us present and shift into gratitude.

“When you feel grateful, you attract more to be grateful for.”

If you wake up feeling crappy, I get it! Acknowledge that crap sandwich, but don’t eat it! Feel those feelings, but don’t stay there. Give yourself some time, vent to a person if you need to, but MOVE ON.

“Get rid of the thoughts that aren’t serving you, because that’s the outcome you’ll be living in.”

Quickie Tip: Don’t let the idea of changing ALL your thoughts at once bog you down. This is not an all-or-nothing approach. The next time one of those negative Nelly thoughts comes for a visit, recognize it for what it is and choose to make your next thought just a little better. It’s those baby steps that lead to the most impactful and sustained growth.

In This Episode You Will Hear About:

  • How thoughts affect outcome
  • Positivity
  • Cause and effect
  • Gratitude

Resources and Books

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