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Episode 139: Causing An Effect!

Quick…what are you thinking RIGHT now?

Are they positive thoughts filled with love and gratitude? Or are they low-vibe, energy-sucking thoughts that make you want to eat a can of worms?

If you’re the latter… don’t eat the worms! Kidding, but seriously, I do want to discuss the power of thoughts and how those thoughts affect your current situation.

I don’t know about you, but I’m fascinated with research – especially when it’s connected to the power of thoughts and changing outcomes. Currently, I’m reading the book, Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself by Dr. Joe Dispenza, and he discusses how by shifting our thoughts from being a victim of our circumstances we can instead cause an effect that creates a different outcome.

Nerd alert – I get so excited reading about studies like this. Dispenza shares research that directly links changes in DNA to positive thoughts. Did you read that? Changes in a person’s DNA!! Isn’t that amazing?! He advises though, that it’s not just about positive thoughts. Within the testing groups of one of the mentioned studies, the changes were only seen when there were positive thoughts AND feelings that went with them.

“It’s not just the thoughts, but rather the intentions behind them.”

We have the power to change our outcomes – just thinking and feeling different things. Now don’t get me wrong, I’m realistic. We’re not all going to wake up singing happy songs and dancing, but that’s exactly why we practice rituals that help get us present and shift into gratitude.

“When you feel grateful, you attract more to be grateful for.”

If you wake up feeling crappy, I get it! Acknowledge that crap sandwich, but don’t eat it! Feel those feelings, but don’t stay there. Give yourself some time, vent to a person if you need to, but MOVE ON.

“Get rid of the thoughts that aren’t serving you, because that’s the outcome you’ll be living in.”

Quickie Tip: Don’t let the idea of changing ALL your thoughts at once bog you down. This is not an all-or-nothing approach. The next time one of those negative Nelly thoughts comes for a visit, recognize it for what it is and choose to make your next thought just a little better. It’s those baby steps that lead to the most impactful and sustained growth.

In This Episode You Will Hear About:

  • How thoughts affect outcome
  • Positivity
  • Cause and effect
  • Gratitude

Resources and Books

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Episode 122: Live Your KICKASS LIFE – How to LET GO of Blocks and SHAME with Andrea Owen

Andrea Owen is an author, mentor, and certified life coach who helps women get what they want by letting go of perfectionism, control, and isolation and choosing to practice courage instead. She has helped thousands of women manage their inner-critic to create loving connections and live their most kick-ass life.

When she’s not juggling her full coaching practice and writing her second book, Andrea is busy competing in triathlons, chasing her 7-year-old son and 5-year-old daughter or making out with her husband, Jason. She’s also a retired roller derby player having skated under the name “Veronica Vain.”

Around 2003, when Andrea was first exposed and becoming aware of life-coaches/coaching, she knew she’d found her path. Having lived a pretty “charmed” life as she called it, she wasn’t sure how she could be a life coach without any extraordinary life circumstances or tragedies to be able to share and relate to.

Having said that, a few short years later as Andrea and her then-husband were trying to have their first baby, she found out about his affair with the neighbor and a resulting pregnancy from that (talk about her first traumatic event! GEEZ!). Just when you think “what could be worse?” Andrea picked herself up and launched herself back into the dating world. Moving onto the next man who she thought was Mr. Right, she later found out about his addictive drug habits and how she had been conned out of more than $8,000 during their 9-month relationship. Oh, and she was pregnant.

Looking back and telling her story with us, Andrea now shares how she believed this all may have come to be.

“The common denominator of my circumstances was me. What was I attracting in my life? What had I tolerated? What had I ignored my intuition about?”

Digging herself out of the rut like a strong, powerhouse woman would, Andrea skipped the “victim” role and instead went to taking radical responsibility for her life! (YOU GO GIRL!)

Expressing her feelings about her rock-bottom years wasn’t easy, but Andrea found the message in all of her mess and shares with us some of the very first steps on how she started over.

“I wrote down 10 things I was grateful for, and it was actually pretty easy. Despite a few things, let’s be honest…I still had a very privileged life.”

Fun fact: You cannot be angry and grateful at the same time.

No matter what has happened previously, you can’t let your past define you. Andrea is the perfect example of someone who has had hardship(s) in her life, but has still come out on top! You must envision your future. Draw it out, pray for it and hustle until it becomes your reality.

“Controlling and perfectionism were two of my biggest nemesis, but I had to learn the balance between taking responsibility and also for letting go and self-compassion.”

In This Episode You Will Learn About:

  • Practice
  • Courage
  • Confidence
  • Connecting
  • Life
  • Coaching
  • Intuition
  • Attracting
  • Manifesting
  • Gratitude
  • Letting go

Resources:

If you’re ready to say HELL YES, go to yourkickasslife.com for more on Andrea!

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Episode 121: Move Your Goals, FAST!

A great way to get present is through breathing. (In through your nose, out through your mouth.) Pay attention to what you hear in these moments… What are you feeling? What are you grateful for today?

I am so excited to announce the launch of my 12-Week Bliss Habit eCourse! Thousands of women have completed this course and have incorporated the lessons learned into their ongoing life journey of creating their own bliss. The first step to being the CEO of your life is to take action, and the Bliss Habit is an amazing way to start with an even more amazing tribe of thousands of women who have your back!

“Even coaches need coaches.”

I am such an advocate of continuous learning, and I truly believe that the bits and pieces we gather from all types of coaches is knowledge that we wouldn’t be able to learn on our own.

“I want someone to measure my goals and hold me accountable. I forgot how good it feels to set a goal and then make yourself AND them proud.”

Today’s quickie is a just glimpse into a few of the many reasons I am a firm believer in coaches. Whether it’s a smaller goal like weight loss/learning to play guitar or a major goal, such as opening a business and making a million dollars per year, each of these things requires a coach, am I right?!

“Coaches use your time effectively and efficiently, which allows you to get laser focused on exactly what you want to do.”

In this Episode You Will Learn About:

  • Being Present
  • Gratitude Practice
  • Breath
  • The Bliss Habit
  • Taking Action
  • Coaching
  • Goals
  • Accountability
  • Commitment
  • Mastermind

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